Motherhood is one of the most rewarding and stressful balancing acts. It requires pouring your heart out to a little human being while waking up every morning to make sure they have everything they need.
In this series, we highlight a few of those women who are in the middle of their greatest balancing act; pouring their hearts into their children while pouring their heart into creating a legacy for their families.
Dominique Kight takes multifaceted to an entirely new level! A true Jill-of-all-trades, Dominique is a Step Family Relationship Coach, the host of Finding the Blend podcast, and a children’s book author. Dominique has been married for almost five years with five children; two bonus and three biological. Because of her own life path, she’s extremely passionate about helping other blended families find their balance! From the time she met her husband, those closest to Dominique admired how she navigated the tumultuous journey of stepfamily life, so through a series of journal entries, her podcast was born.
Finding the Blend is a podcast focused on the journeys of stepmoms. From varying topics and discussions, Dominique works to help other females find their own place with blended families. It was after she saw the feedback from her podcast that she realized there was a real need for honest and unbiased support when it came to having healthy stepfamily relationships, that’s
when Dominique began life coaching. She wanted to be not only an audible resource with episodic topics, but someone who could help clients through their journey as a sounding board, in a more interpersonal way.
In the same breath as wanting to help the parents who go through the journeys of blending their families, Dominique realized there was a need to have a resource for the children as well. BLENDED is her children’s book that she wrote to assist children in beginning to understand what it means to be a part of a stepfamily. This book is meant to aid in the conversations parents can have with their children about the new rewards and challenges that arise when two families become one.
Those closest to Dominique describe her as funny and blunt. She prides herself on being an open book once people get to know her, which ultimately helps her along in the life coaching business of being able to bond with her clients early-on. While her husband might say she works too much, Dominique believes she never wants to look back and regret not accomplishing something! A true crime junkie and audio book lover, when she’s not rushing from one extracurricular event to the next for her children, you can find her caught up in a podcast episode or listening to a great new book.
Most influenced by the people who walk this same journey side-by-side with her, Dominique strives to find ways to support them at every turn. Without their stories, she wouldn’t have her podcast. Without their respect, she wouldn’t be a life coach. Without their trust, she wouldn’t have a book that people believe can help their children through this new transition. Starting this journey out to self-heal, Dominique ultimately became a healer, and that’s been the biggest blessing of all.
What inspired your start in entrepreneurship?
I would have to say the desire to own my life made me want to pursue entrepreneurship. As a wife and mother of five, there are always things to do or go or take care of and when you throw in a job working for someone else and have to ask permission to do those things, it can be depressing. I did not want to have to choose between keeping my job and making memories with my children. Entrepreneurship offers me the opportunity to control my time and make my own rules.
What has been your biggest challenge/failure as an entrepreneur? And how do you deal with it?
My biggest challenge as an entrepreneur is being okay with sitting still. Sometimes, I feel as though if I’m not busy, I’m failing and that has the potential to cause burnout. I think that also ties into having a fear of failure. At any given moment, I have a million different ideas of things that I want to try, and, in my mind, I feel like I can start them and succeed at them all. I have learned that to be a master of all things, you have to learn how to pace your race. That means you can visualize the finish line of the race as the idea or the goal you have in mind. The next step is to figure out how to get there, do you speed through all the details or do you strategize how to jump over the hurdles and stay in your lane as you run the race. It’s truly a mindset shift.
How do you balance entrepreneurship and Motherhood without experiencing burnout while pursuing your passion?
That’s a tough one. I have 5 kids ranging from ages 2 to 17, I work at a law firm, I’m hosting and producing my podcast, I write children’s books, and I’m a life coach. Where do I have time to do any of this the answer to that is I don’t know. How do I do it all? I don’t know… Somehow, I just make it happen. I identified what my priorities are at that moment and those that were approaching. Priorities change and it’s important to understand that it is okay to not be able to do and be everything to everybody. Mommy guilt is real and you have to be okay with saying no and setting boundaries not only for everyone else but also for yourself. It is very easy to put too much on your own plate. Superwoman is a fictional character that we as women really need to stop killing ourselves to be. Being happy and healthy comes from knowing your limits and let’s not forget, as a mom, your mood sets the tone of the household. That’s your superpower!
What advice do you have for moms looking to get started In entrepreneurship?
I would have to say be realistic in your expectations of yourself and of other people. You expect that everyone will love your ideas and support you 100%. The sad truth is, they don’t, so you have to learn how to be your own cheerleader when you need it. I think that it is easy to measure your worth on how many likes or follows or comments you get and then feel so let down when it doesn’t look like you expected it to. I conquered that by saying the people that my idea or business reached are who it was meant for and the others that viewed it negatively were placed there to help me appreciate the beginning steps of the journey and the people who are there to push you along.
What does being a Pretty Woman Who Hustles mean to you?
It means that I didn’t settle. I was a single mom at 19 and I carried that stigma for a long time. I always felt like I had something to prove. I wanted to prove that I wasn’t going to settle on my circumstances, but that I was going to be everything that I ever desired to be, even if that meant that I tried idea after idea and failed. In my opinion, it’s okay to fail because at least I tried. Being a Pretty Woman that Hustles means that I’m making strides in building the platform that I need to make an impact on other women and families and that makes it all worth it.
What books do you recommend for moms navigating entrepreneurship?
I love books that encourage me. They may not be directly related to Entrepreneurship but, if they inspire me to keep going or reignite my drive then it’s a winner to me.
I would encourage moms like me to read:
Daring Greatly- Brene Brown
Just Pursuit- Laura Coates
We’re Going to Need More Wine- Gabrielle Union
Connect with Dominique
Podcast IG- @findingtheblendpodcast
Finding The Blend Coaching- @findingtheblendllc