Debut author Kimberly Gowdy tackles the topic of surrogacy and infertility head-on. In The Colorless Womb, Gowdy talks about her struggles to conceive and carry a child. She discusses complications of three miscarriages and being trapped in an abusive marriage with her former spouse who valued his drug addiction more than his wife. The book follows her journey in search of alternative ways to have a family and how her faith kept her strong even in the darkest of days. After seven failed surrogacy attempts with two embryos left, the biggest surprise comes in an unexpected package.
Gowdy’s openness to share her truth is refreshing and brings the reader along for an emotional ride sprinkled with humor, pain, encouragement, faith, and transparency. She proves that help in any form can come in unseen ways and in people. “Since this is a true story, it was just a matter of telling my truth. The Colorless Womb shows that even with the racial tensions in our country, love is above racism. The person on the inside matters more than what is on the outside,” Gowdy says.
Patrice: Who is Kimberly Gowdy?
Kimberly: Kimberly is the eldest of eight children. A woman who previously lived a life under the secret of domestic abuse, the shame of enabling drug addiction, and a believer that she would never carry the title of mom, who’s now living her best life as a business professional, wife of a doctor and mother to a son.
Patrice: What makes you a pretty woman who hustles?
Kimberly: I’m a woman who has looked down the barrel of life’s darkest days and still decided I wanted more. I’m a woman who knows struggle, pain, and disappointment, but I also knew how to use it for my good. We can be blessed even by the mistakes we make. It all works together for your good.
Patrice: What is the name of your book, and what is it about?
Kimberly: “The Colorless Womb. “The Colorless Womb” is about the most painful part of my life. It’s about loss, brokenness, and the journey it took for me to become a mother. I’ve always believed that I would someday wear that title, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but sometimes God saves us from ourselves. The timing, the person, even the place may not be right. This book is a testament that our blessings may not always be recognizable.
Patrice: Did you face any challenges in your journey when writing your book?
Kimberly: I faced some challenges. The first was a matter of time. When I thought about writing, my son was two years old. My husband and I were also caregivers to my 90-year-old father-in-law. Having a child and a senior citizen in the house, we were going from the pediatrician for my son to the geriatric ward for my father-in-law all in the same week. I was a wife, mother and working full time outside the home. Between that challenge and not believing enough in my writing skills, it was difficult. But obviously, I overcame those barriers.
Patrice: What does a pretty woman who hustles mean to you?
Kimberly: A woman who is about her business. A woman who drowns out the negativity that she hears and sees on television and social media. A woman who believes that if I don’t believe in me, no one else will.
Patrice: Are you working on any current projects right now?
Kimberly: I am working on writing my second book. I’ll just say it’s more political. I’m also working on developing MOBY™. Mommy Older Baby Younger. It’s a name I trademarked to represent women who became mothers at or over 35. There are many of us. Not just actresses but everyday women. Women who may have married someone with children, surrogacy, adoption, or the good old-fashioned way. But we are to be celebrated because we didn’t focus on society’s timeline.
Patrice: How do you face diversity as a woman author?
Kimberly: I’m new to this industry, but I will say the books that I plan to write will reach a wide audience. Growing up in Connecticut, in a very diverse community, my experiences dictate that I will be cast a wide net in terms of those who will appreciate my stories.
Patrice: Is balancing your personal life, work, and business life difficult for you at times?
Kimberly: It can be difficult at times. I work hard, both in my profession and now as an Author. Most women are guilty of doing way too much to please others, it’s just what we do. When it gets too overwhelming, I step back, pray, and then imagine life without those around me who need me, and that usually takes me out of my pity party, that and a glass of Cabernet.
Patrice: What does being an entrepreneur mean to you?
Kimberly: It means leaving a legacy. It means knowing that when I leave this earth, there will be something with my name on it. I can say “Google me,” and you’ll see more than just my previous address history; you’ll see hard work, dedication, and commitment to my dreams.
Patrice: What do you want the readers to take away from your book?
Kimberly: That with race relations at an all-time low, we are more alike than different. And that one of life’s greatest blessings may come in an unsuspecting package.
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