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Surviving Struggle, Finding Strength: The Story Behind Lay’na Michelle’s Rise to Success

May 11, 2024Posted in Pretty Cover StoriesTagged beyonce, detroit, entertainment, music, newsLeave a comment

Lay’na Michelle R’n’B Empress is an American songwriter from Detroit Motown. Lay’na Michelle R’n’B Empress started singing in the church choir at the age of 3. During her upbringing, she had a tough road to where she is now. At the age of 17, she survived rape at gunpoint during high school along with domestic violence. On November 14th, 2008 she met her husband and manager. The next year Lay’na Michelle R’n’B Empress started her career with a three-track demo (on the grind, swag tight, and 15 seconds) on the streets of Detroit lol over her demo which ran from 2009 to 2014 she then had to take a break from music because of her seizures. For three years she wrote her first album, she named the album blu3 dr3am Ave after the strain of marijuana blue dream. This album took off with success winning her 6 music awards making history five times and being able to travel around the world. Her first album was released on our wedding anniversary March 26, 2017. By August 2018 her album won Best Album of the year and Entertainer of the Year from Las Vegas, later in the year of 2018 her performance she had with the Detroit Pistons inside of the new LCA would change history books forever. On November 23rd, 2018 Lay’na Michelle R’n’B Empress performed her original music for the Detroit Pistons inside of the new LCA during a pre-game performance. Because of this performance, she made history here is the history as follows:

Lay’Na Michelle’s Highlights

1. Being the first African American independent music artist to perform original music inside of the new LCA during a pre-game during the Detroit Pistons game.

2. Along with that she is the only artist to have a music video shot inside of the LCA during a performance.

3. Six months later April 12-30th, 2019 the Charles H Wright museum honored her with an exhibit for her performance inside of the LCA during a pre game performance. Because of this exhibit Lay’na Michelle R’n’B Empress became the only music artist alive to ever have an exhibit inside of African American museum. FYI these museums only honor the dead she isn’t dead me being her manager and husband I am not dead.

4. She has placed herself into the following history books: Black History, Music History Detroit history women history Michigan history.

Awards 14 music awards & nominated for 12 music awards in Germany 2024

1. August 2018 won 2 awards (on 1st album) fan choice votes.

2. August 2019 awarded a Spirit of Detroit award (on first album)

3. July 20, 2020 won female artist of the year Florida (1st album)

4. Won most streams from the United Kingdom 400,000 streams on her album 2023 (1st & 2nd album)

5. Won most streams again from the United Kingdom 2024 500,000 streams (1st album)

6. Awarded by city of Southfield, Michigan Mayor for Black History February 22, 2021 (2nd album)

7. Won best r&b soul Tennessee August 2021 (2nd album)

8. Best written song 2 Awards from Australia (2nd album)

9. Won Soul Artist of the month from Atlanta fan choice votes (2nd album)

10. Won most streams from the UK 2024 for 500,000 streams (2nd album)

11. Best original r&b song in Europe (2nd album)

We had the opportunity of sitting down with Lay’na Michelle to discuss music and her legacy in the making:

Layna Michelle R&B Empress, your journey in the music industry has been marked by both triumph and resilience. Can you share with us how your early experiences in the church choir shaped your passion for music and your determination to succeed?

Growing up in the church choir taught me what it means to stay strong and have faith. If anyone has been in the church choir we all know that we are dealing with different personalities. From the age of 7, I learned how to deal with different difficulties as well as how to pray when faced with difficulties in life. It’s something about how the melodies and personalities come together to achieve a beautiful sound with a beautiful message.

Surviving such traumatic events at a young age must have been incredibly challenging. How did you find the strength to pursue your music career despite the obstacles you faced?

Prayer and my faith in God shaped my way of thinking. Also, the support from my parents/family helped me to be able to overcome any obstacle that came my way. My mom and dad always taught my younger sister (who is now a veterinarian); that I to never tell God how big my problems are. Tell your problems how big your GOD is. I always wanted to sing and I put my trust in God to guide me no matter how hard any issue seemed.

Your debut album, blu3 dr3am Ave not only received critical acclaim but also garnered numerous awards and recognition. Could you tell us about the inspiration behind the album and what it means to you personally?

I’m a huge advocate of the healing effects of cannabis when used responsibly. Blue Dream happens to be a strain. I have PTSD from a traumatic experience that happened to me a while ago. I tried this strain and it seems as if words would just flow in my mind. My memories would come to me but I was able to see them as experiences that made me stronger. I put my written words to music and realized. It was like walking peacefully down a street thanks to “Blue Dream.

Making history as the first African American independent music artist to perform original music at the new LCA during a Detroit Pistons game is remarkable. Can you walk us through that experience and what it felt like to achieve such a significant milestone?

Thank you for the compliment. I always wanted to perform in front of a large crowd. I thought I was ready when the Pistons were located at the Palace of Auburn Hills. At the time I knew my music career was not quite at the level where it should have been. I prayed about it and received an answer. “Not yet”. Years later the opportunity came for me to perform at the LCA. I thought at this time I was not ready. I prayed about it and received an answer. “It’s time”. As I was riding in the car to the venue I was listening to one of my favorite songs by Detroit’s own Eminem.

“Lose yourself”. As I listened to the hook I realized that I have one shot and I can’t lose this chance. Just so happened I also made history. I’m blessed to have done something that was made for me.

Being honored with an exhibit at the Charles H Wright Museum must have been a surreal moment. How did it feel to have your work celebrated in such a meaningful way, especially as a living artist breaking traditional norms of recognition?

It was never my intention to make history. I didn’t expect to do any of this. I just knew music was my passion. To be celebrated for such an achievement I’m still till this day in amazement. It’s a blessing to know that the majority of my hometown has my back. I just know there is so much more to accomplish and I’m ready for whatever comes my way.

Your success has placed you in various history books, from Black History to Music History and beyond. What does it mean to you to be recognized not only for your talent but also for your impact on cultural and social narratives?

I never really thought about this until now. I’m smiling and crying just thinking about it. I’ve done something that my future children and generations to come will be proud of. I’ve done something to help break down walls for others to come. I’m truly thankful for this moment in my life.

What can your fans expect from your upcoming projects, and how do you envision your music evolving in the years to come?

I have some things in the works. My name is being mentioned in certain rooms. I’ve been nominated in Europe again and have some things in the works. I guess everyone will have to stay tuned to my website and my social media signature to find out = #RnBEmpress.

Looking back at your journey so far, what advice would you give to aspiring artists who may be facing challenges and obstacles in pursuing their dreams?

Prayer/Meditation means a whole lot in achieving anything. Know when to speak and know when to be silent. Don’t get all of your info from one source. Sometimes you have to take bits and pieces from different areas and piece your own “pie” together. Remember this is your career. No one else’s.

Website: www.laynamichelle.com

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Embrace, Empower, Inspire: Cheryl A. Gomes’s Vision for Women’s Wellness

May 9, 2024Posted in New Online, Pretty Cover StoriesTagged abuse, domestic violence, domestic-abuse, mental health, womenLeave a comment

Cheryl A Gomes, LMSW Speaker, Consultant, Advocate for Domestic Violence, Ordained Chaplain Board of Commissioners State of Conneticut Community Board

Cheryl is a native of New Haven Connecticut. Cheryl is a Servant First, a graduate of the UConn, School of Social Work where she obtained a dual master’s degree in Community Organization, and Mental Health and Addiction Services. Cheryl is a former Youth Commissioner with the City of New Haven’s Mayors Youth Initiative for ten years. She is an Ordained Chaplain, Visionary, and Founder of My Sistah’s Innovative Mentoring Group as well as My Sistahs’s Circle, a Domestic Violence Support Group. Cheryl is a retired educator of over thirty years, and has taught locally, and abroad; at St. Croix USVI. Cheryl’s vision is to Embrace, Empower, and Inspire (breathe life) into women who have been affected by domestic violence, sexual assault, mental illness, or domestic abuse. When Cheryl tells her story of overcoming obstacles and embracing her life realizing she (we) are no longer victims, but victorious. Cheryl’s transparent message speaks volumes through all demographics. As she reflects on being beaten in her third-grade classroom in front of her students, as the students threw books and erasers at her abuser screaming “Leave Ms. Gomes alone”, she was quickly reminded of losing her son at five months; unable to save him, but found the strength to get up from the floor and fight back to save herself and her students. Thirty years later, Cheryl continues to speak her Truth. After spending time in jail, Cheryl promised herself once she was delivered, she would fight, walk, and support Domestic Violence by any means necessary; Love Shouldn’t Hurt! Cheryl’s Motto is “Love Yourself First, Know Your Worth”

” If I didn’t define myself for myself I would be eaten alive by everyone’s opinion of me” Audre Lorde

I can ALL things through Christ who strengthens me” Philippians 4:13

Can you share with us the inspiration behind founding My Sistah’s Innovative Mentoring Group and My Sistah’s Circle, and how these organizations support women affected by domestic violence?

The inspiration behind founding My Sistah’s Innovative Mentoring Group I had been working with young adults nearly 40 years in all capacities; trauma informed, special needs, adjudicated youth, troubled girls who were broken and bruised. For 22 years I was a teen leader at my church which allowed me to council and embrace the young adults. God reminded me this was my calling being a victim of trauma, sexual assault, mental and emotional abuse as a young girl. Constantly bullied for being pretty and dressing nicely. I saw the same pain with the population I had the pleasure of working with. I knew I had to be a vessel for them, a voice to the voiceless. As my girls got older still dealing with their traumatic issues, My Sistah’s Circle was birthed 7 years ago empowering and embracing the older young ladies and women identifying with their abuse. I started a confidential conference call weekly for women to have a safe place to disclose, heal, and learn about the very facets of abuse; sexual, physical, emotional, financial, and verbal. Most importantly, the women were from the church, police officers’ wives, and Pastors wives.

As a former educator with over thirty years of experience, how have your professional background and personal experiences influenced your advocacy work for domestic violence survivors?

As a Survivor of Domestic Violence beaten in my classroom in front of my students. I continue to speak throughout the U.S. telling my stories and teaching women the tools on being a survivor no longer a victim. My organization is a women’s support group. We educate via social media, we offer the weekly confidential conference call to equip women and educate them on topics that refence domestic violence’ having an exit plan in place, knowing your worth, building you self-esteem and your self-worth. As a former educator, teaching women the tools to maintain as a woman being your best authentic self is my passion as well as trusting God. The goal is to turn your pain into your passion.

My personal experiences of not feeling the love from my mother as I needed always feeling abandoned and not accepted is why I continue my passion to educate, empower and equip young girls and women. It’s a different kind a feeling when you don’t know your worth, or you’re seeking validation from someone when your validation comes from God.

You’ve described your vision as “Embrace, Empower, and Inspire” for women affected by domestic violence. Can you elaborate on how you implement these principles in your mentoring and support group sessions?

How I continue to implement my vision to Embrace, Empower, and Inspire is to continue to live by example. Allotting time to council those women in need, doing social events to stay connected. We enjoy walks, celebrating life and Sistah-hood over dinner, participle in women’s equality and empowerment conferences, zoom empowerment groups discussing varies topics, and anything that allows us to stay connected and safe. This year will be our first Walk the Walk for Domestic Violence. We want to decrease the numbers statistically showing that 45.1% of Black women and 40.1% of Black men have experienced intimate partner physical violence in their lifetimes.

Your motto is “Love Yourself First, Know Your Worth.” How do you encourage women to embrace self-love and recognize their value, especially in the context of abusive relationships?

Regarding my motto “Love Yourself First, Know Your Worth” I encourage women to fight, letting them know they are not alone. I tell my story of being with high powered men not wanting for anything very well kept, but also very broken. I didn’t love myself, not knowing my worth. After being beaten I was rewarded with lavish gifts thinking that was love. It wasn’t until I was beaten in my classroom in ST. Croix USVI while on the floor trying to fight back watching my students throw books and erasers at my abuser screaming “leave Ms. Gomes alone”, I knew then I had to get up and fight; enough is enough, love should not hurt. Weekly we discuss growth, healing, your value, and reminding women it is not your fault.

What are some common misconceptions about domestic violence, and how do you work to break down these myths through your advocacy efforts?

In terms of common misconceptions about domestic violence.

A few are domestic violence is unusual. People feel there is only physical abuse not identifying that verbal and emotional abuse still exists, and more vital. So many women can remember how they felt and what their abuser said after years of ending the relationships.

It’s impossible to love someone who abuses you. It’s very complex to admit we as victims loved our abusers, and it’s very hard to accept. In our eyes love shouldn’t hurt, but it does.

If someone abuses you, it’s an obvious decision to leave that relationship.

If you love the person and economically dependent on them, it’s difficult to leave,

My Sistahs Circle women’s support group teach women the tips, and tools of an exit plan to leave. Ot does not happen overnight. The objective is to remain safe.

What advice would you give to individuals who are currently experiencing domestic violence or supporting someone who is?

The advice we recommend to women is letting them they are never alone. We equip them with resources, other groups that will encourage them to keep going. I personally tell my story so they can see first had there is hope. Being transparent is the key to reaching wounded women.

How do you see the landscape of domestic violence awareness and prevention evolving in the future, and what role do you hope to play in that evolution?

In regards to seeing the landscape of domestic violence details surrounding domestic violence highlighting its contradictions. Women face social, cultural, and institutional barriers to rights. Access to housing, jobs, childcare, and dealing with law enforcement personnel who are overburdened and sexist unwilling to help women due to lack of their proper training and acknowledging the history of domestic violence in terms of severity.

My role is and always has been to continue the fight addressing legislature, revisiting policies that are in place that are not affective, increasing sentencing for abusers, re-writing polices for the betterment of women who have been affected by any form of abuse.

What message would you like to share with our audience about the importance of speaking out against domestic violence and supporting survivors in their journey to healing and empowerment?

The message I speak to My Sistahs’ is you are never alone. Learn to love yourself, know your worth. It’s hard, but possible. My favorite scripture is Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ”, I stand on that today. Even though I was beaten, broken, sexually assaulted, and cocaine addicted to ease the pain, I stand on God’s word. I remind myself daily that I went from having it all, being kept, not wanting anything to living in a shelter with only the clothes on my back. I left the millionaire lifestyle having nothing but my dignity but look at me now. A knew creature in Christ who delivered me while in jail and assuring through his word, that I Am Fearfully and Wonderfully made. I am a Queen today who continues to walk by faith, not by sight, feeling good about ME! Keep going Sis, ask for help. Domestic Violence National Hotline is 800-799-7233.

What is your definition of a Pretty Woman who hustles?

My definition of Pretty Women who hustles. In agreement with your motto: An unapologetically Pretty with a whole lot of HUSTLE. I would add who knows her worth.

The Heart of Healing: Ranjot’s Approach to Depression and Anxiety

May 7, 2024Posted in Mental Health/Self CareTagged health, mental health, anxiety, depression, mentalhealthLeave a comment

An award winning Counselling Psychologist specialising in depression and anxiety, Author of the ‘Punjabi Depression Inventory: A culturally sensitive measure for Punjabi-speaking migrants residing in the UK’, the UK’s first ever study of its kind

Ranjot is a Counselling Psychologist and published author who went from navigating her own mental health journey, to being a globally sought-after Psychologist guiding individuals with anxiety, depression and difficult life transitions from surviving to thriving.

Ranjot’s research titled “Punjabi Depression Inventory: A culturally sensitive measure for Punjabi-speaking migrants residing in the UK” is ground-breaking in its exploration of cultural nuances in depression symptoms. This pioneering work not only provides invaluable insights for mental health professionals but also significantly enhances the provision of culturally-competent care, particularly for the Punjabi community and beyond.

Through her dedication and innovative approach, Ranjot continues to contribute to the advancement of psychological understanding and the promotion of holistic well-being for people facing emotional distress.

Can you share with us the personal journey that led you to become a counseling psychologist, particularly in navigating the challenges of cultural conditioning and mental health stigma within the South Asian community?

My journey to becoming a counseling psychologist was deeply intertwined with my personal experiences navigating cultural conditioning and mental health stigma within the South Asian community.

Growing up, I felt the weight of expectations placed upon me as a South Asian woman—to always put others before myself, to suppress my own needs and desires, and to adhere to rigid gender roles. This conditioning not only impacted my sense of self-worth but also contributed to feelings of inadequacy and guilt, especially when my health issues arose. Being diagnosed with chronic Idiopathic Thrombocytopenic Purpura (ITP) at 16 was a pivotal moment. Suddenly, I was labeled as the “sick” one, and fears about my future, marriage prospects, and societal judgments inundated my mind. It was a lonely and frightening experience, compounded by the lack of discourse around mental health in my community.

At 18, experiencing anaphylactic shock heightened my anxiety and ushered in debilitating panic attacks. The stigma surrounding mental health in the South Asian community made it difficult for me to recognize and seek help for what I was experiencing. However, seeking professional support opened my eyes to the importance of breaking the silence around mental health struggles.

My journey toward becoming a counseling psychologist was not without its obstacles. From facing challenges during my doctoral viva to grappling with my anxiety, I understood first-hand the complexities of mental health and the need for culturally sensitive support. Establishing my practice was a natural extension of my mission to reduce stigma and provide a safe space for individuals to explore their mental health needs. Through therapy, I witnessed the transformative power of support and understanding, reinforcing my commitment to being a catalyst for change within my community and beyond.

My journey has taught me that personal experiences, combined with professional expertise, can be a powerful force for healing and empowerment.

Your experience with chronic health conditions and mental health challenges is undoubtedly unique. How did these experiences shape your perspective on mental health and drive your mission to destigmatize it, especially within cultural contexts where discussing mental health is often taboo?

Having been labeled as the “sick” one from a young age due to my chronic health condition, I intimately understood the intersection of physical and mental health struggles. The fear, isolation, and self-doubt that accompanied my diagnosis illuminated the dire need for open conversations about mental health within my community.

Experiencing anaphylactic shock at 18 intensified my anxiety and triggered debilitating panic attacks. However, the stigma surrounding mental health in my South Asian community made it difficult for me to recognize and seek help for what I was experiencing. This first-hand experience underscored the importance of breaking the silence and advocating for mental health awareness.

Through seeking professional support and embarking on my journey to become a counseling psychologist, I realized the transformative power of validation and understanding. My struggles with mental health propelled me to become a voice for change, to challenge the stigma, and to create safe spaces for individuals to seek help without fear of judgment or shame.

My research on the Punjabi Depression Inventory was a direct response to the cultural nuances and expressions of depression within the Punjabi community in the UK. By developing a culturally sensitive measure, I aimed to ensure that individuals like myself could receive accurate diagnoses and tailored support, even in contexts where mental health discussions are typically avoided.

Establishing my practice was a natural extension of my commitment to destigmatizing mental health. Through therapy, I witnessed first-hand the transformative impact of providing a supportive and understanding environment for individuals to explore their mental health needs. Additionally, I recognized the importance of leading by example by opening up about my struggles to encourage others to seek help and break the cycle of silence and shame surrounding mental health. By sharing my journey openly, I hoped to create a space where others felt empowered to do the same, fostering a community of support and understanding.

Today, I continue to advocate for mental health awareness and provide support to individuals from diverse backgrounds who are struggling with depression and other challenges. My journey has taught me that personal experiences, combined with professional expertise, can serve as a powerful catalyst for destigmatizing mental health and promoting healing within cultural contexts where it is most needed.

Could you elaborate on the significance of the Punjabi Depression Inventory and how it addresses the cultural nuances of depression?

My research on the Punjabi Depression Inventory (PDI) was born out of a desire to bridge the gap between Western mental health measures and the unique cultural expressions of depression within the Punjabi community in the UK. I wanted to ensure that individuals like myself could receive accurate diagnoses and tailored support, without the risk of their experiences being overlooked or misunderstood.

Here are some of the ways that the PDI addresses cultural nuances of depression:

• Language: The PDI is in Punjabi, the native language of the target population. This means that there is less chance of questions being misunderstood or misinterpreted due to language barriers.

• Symptoms: The PDI includes items that tap into symptoms of depression that may be expressed differently in Punjabi culture. For example, one subscale of the PDI is called “crying.” Crying may be a more socially acceptable way to express sadness or hopelessness in Punjabi culture than it is in Western culture.

• Religion: Another subscale of the PDI is called “religion.” This subscale includes items that assess a person’s beliefs about the role of religion in coping with depression. This is important because religion can be a source of strength and comfort for many Punjabi people.

How has this research impacted the accessibility and effectiveness of mental health support within this community?

The PDI has revolutionized mental health accessibility and effectiveness within the Punjabi community. By using the Punjabi language and acknowledging cultural expressions of depression like crying, the PDI bridges the communication gap between Punjabi individuals and mental health professionals. This culturally sensitive approach allows for more accurate diagnoses, ultimately leading to better-targeted and tailored treatment plans and increased accessibility of mental health services for the Punjabi community.

You mentioned the importance of providing therapy beyond the typical time frames offered by the NHS. How does your approach to therapy differ, and what do you believe are the benefits of longer-term, more personalized therapeutic interventions?

I believe that not all problems can be “fixed” within the 6–12-week timeframe typically offered by the NHS. This belief stems from my own experiences and observations as both a therapist and someone who has navigated mental health challenges. My approach to therapy differs in that I advocate for longer-term, more personalized therapeutic interventions that cater to the unique needs of each individual.

In my practice, I prioritize creating a safe and supportive environment where clients feel empowered to explore their mental health needs at their own pace. I understand that healing is a journey, and it often requires time, patience, and commitment. By offering longer-term therapy, I aim to provide clients with the space and opportunity to delve deeper into their experiences, gain insight, and develop sustainable coping strategies.

Moreover, my approach to therapy is rooted in cultural sensitivity and understanding. I recognize the importance of addressing cultural nuances and how they intersect with mental health experiences. This means tailoring therapeutic interventions to honor and respect the cultural backgrounds and identities of my clients, ensuring that they feel seen, heard, and validated throughout the therapeutic process.

Personalized interventions mean that therapy can be adapted to meet the evolving needs of the client over time. This flexibility allows for a more holistic and comprehensive approach to mental health care, addressing not only immediate concerns but also underlying patterns and dynamics that may contribute to ongoing challenges.

As someone who has experienced both cultural conditioning and societal expectations first-hand, what advice would you give to individuals struggling to break free from these constraints and prioritize their mental well-being?

Firstly, I encourage individuals to challenge societal conditioning by researching and educating themselves about mental health and its intersections with culture. This knowledge empowers individuals to recognize and challenge harmful beliefs and norms that may impede their well-being. Additionally, I urge individuals to prioritize self-care and self-compassion, recognizing that their mental health is invaluable and deserving of attention and support. Seeking professional help from a therapist who understands cultural nuances can also be immensely beneficial, providing a safe space to explore and address the impact of cultural conditioning on mental well-being. Lastly, I encourage individuals to find community and support networks where they can share their experiences and feel validated in their journey toward prioritizing their mental health.

Your affirmation card deck for South Asian women sounds like a powerful tool for promoting self-love and mindfulness. Can you tell us more about the inspiration behind creating this deck and how it contributes to your broader mission of empowering women within the community?

Creating the affirmation card deck for South Asian women was born out of a deep understanding of the unique challenges and cultural nuances that South Asian women face in their journey toward self-love and empowerment. As a psychologist, I recognized the importance of providing culturally relevant tools and resources to support South Asian women on their path to well-being. The inspiration behind the deck stemmed from my own experiences and struggles with cultural conditioning, as well as the stories shared by my clients and community members. Each affirmation card is carefully crafted to resonate with the experiences and identities of South Asian women, offering messages of encouragement, resilience, and self-compassion. By providing affirmations in a format that is accessible and relatable, the deck serves as a powerful tool for promoting self-love, self-care, and mindfulness within the community. It contributes to my broader mission of empowering women by providing them with the tools and resources they need to cultivate a positive relationship with themselves, challenge societal expectations, and embrace their inherent worth and strength. Through these affirmations, I hope to inspire South Asian women to prioritize their mental well-being, embrace their identities, and live authentically on their terms.

What are your hopes for the future of mental health awareness and support within South Asian communities and beyond? How do you envision continuing to make a difference in the lives of those struggling with mental health challenges?

My hopes for the future of mental health awareness and support within South Asian communities and beyond are rooted in the ongoing stigmatization of mental health struggles and the creation of culturally sensitive resources and support networks. I want to create a world where access to tailored mental health care is a fundamental right, shaping a healthier and more resilient society. I envision a future where individuals feel empowered to prioritize their mental well-being without fear of judgment or shame, and where culturally relevant tools and interventions are readily accessible to those who need them. Moving forward, I am committed to continuing to make a difference in the lives of those struggling with mental health challenges by advocating for greater awareness, providing tailored support through therapy and resources like the affirmation card deck, and fostering a community of understanding and acceptance. Through these efforts, I aim to break down barriers, promote healing, and empower individuals to live authentically and fully.

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Leading with Love: Dr. Nikki Harris’s Path to Empowering Others

April 29, 2024Posted in Pretty Cover StoriesTagged Bible, christianity, Family, Marriage, ministryLeave a comment

Dr. Harris has been an educator for more than twenty-eight years. She has served as a classroom teacher, department chair, and a member of school administrative teams. She has also served as a college professor and in higher education administration. She teaches teachers and administrators how to educate well. She is a graduate of the University of Tennessee at Martin and Union University with a Master of Education. She holds a doctorate in Leadership and Policy Studies with an Emphasis in Servant Leadership. Throughout her professional and ministerial career, she has developed and authored curriculum and training materials, community outreach programs, and grants. She has also conducted grant management. She is most grateful for having the opportunity to train and develop leaders. Dr. Harris has appeared on local news shows and Christian television programs, as well as hosting her own television program, “Created to Be by His Side,” where she featured ministries and businesses of local leading ladies. Dr. Domeniek Harris authored her first book, The Power of Process. She has also co-authored, “With God I Always Have Hope,” “With God, I Will Not Fear,” “Redeemed”, and Precepts for Living.” Dr. Harris has recorded her first devotional CD, “My Husband’s Intercessor.” Dr. Harris has written a new prayer journal for wives, “My Husband’s Intercessor, set to be released in May 2024. Dr. Harris is the new radio host for “Refocused and Informed: Love Conquers All: Fireproofing Families.”

Dr. Nikki is the founder of DrNikkiSpeaks Enterprises, LLC, a coaching and consulting firm for women leaders. Dr. Harris is excited to be working on her sophomore writing project, which will launch in 2025. Dr. Harris along with other Christian female leaders are preparing to launch an online academy and a digital app to further her mission of equipping the called.

She is a prolific writer and speaker with writings published in Christianity Today, but she is most noted for her aptitude to handle the Word of God with passion, precision, and poise. She teaches, mentors, and trains women with anointed Bible teaching that transcends culture, age, and religious barriers. She has ministered to young girls through the “Bridge of Hope” and “Precious Jewels” ministries. Through these ministries, she combats the forces of darkness by helping rescue the next generation from the grips of hell. She ministers in her local church, city, and state and has been called to establish ministries for leading ladies in various states across the United States. She has been called upon to minister internationally as well.

Dr. Nikki Harris ministers to and alongside her pastor husband, Apostle Brian Donald Harris of Dominion Living Ministries. She willingly labors with her husband in training, activating, and releasing laborers for the kingdom harvest. Together, they take pride in teaching God’s people to take dominion and live the kingdom life. She is the founder and visionary of “By His Side Ministries,” a multicultural, interdenominational, and international ministry vehicle that equips ministry wives to labor in the vineyard with power and anointing alongside their husbands. She believes that a woman married to a man in ministry is anointed by God to help her husband have DOMINION. In 2014, Dr. Harris, along with her husband and other local clergy leaders, founded “When Pastors Pray,” an outreach ministry that helps pastoral and clergy leaders overcome depression, discouragement, and burnout, and addresses the prevention of suicide among clergy leaders.

Dr. Harris is the former Chief Executive Officer/President of The National Coalition of Pastors Spouses, which has led the African American church in taking a stand on health education, awareness, and prevention. The National Coalition of Pastors Spouses was founded by the late Lady Vivian Berryhill, who envisioned the church taking back the Black community and overcoming diabetes, heart disease, Aids/HIV, teen pregnancy and other health and non-health related challenges that have plagued the African American community.

Today, Dr. Harris is enjoying being an almost empty nester. Her beautiful daughter Briana’ and handsome son, Jeremiah, are beautifully growing and adulting. So, Dr. Nikki is reclaiming her time. In her reclaimed time, she enjoys reading, writing, mentoring and coaching leaders to do the things they never thought possible. Dr. Harris absolutely loves that she is helping rebuild black wall street through coaching and mentoring black and brown founders and leaders, with Build in Tulsa in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

We had the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Harris to discuss her powerful legacy of leadership and transforming lives:

– With over twenty-eight years of experience in education, you’ve held various roles from classroom teacher to college professor. Can you share how your journey in education has shaped your passion for teaching and leadership development?

I have committed my life to see others grow and develop, seeing people do what they thought they could not has been incredible. I have always been an educator. I started educating when I was in the 1st grade, I was told by my mom that on the weekends I would teach my stuffed animals and dolls everything I had learned in school the previous week. My commitment to education is threaded in every facet of my life from marriage to ministry, and even in how I have raised my children. Education is a vehicle to greatness and it should be considered as such.

– Your commitment to empowering women leaders is evident through your coaching and consulting firm, DrNikkiSpeaks Enterprises, LLC. What inspired you to establish this platform, and how do you hope to impact women in leadership roles?

I founded my business on the premise that women often struggle with finding and walking in purpose unapologetically. I also understand that women in leadership struggle with balancing their marriages and family. I have victory and wisdom in that area and want to extend a lifeline so that others don’t struggle in the same way that I have.

– As the founder of “Equipping the Called,” you focus on equipping ministry wives to work alongside their husbands in the church. Can you elaborate on the vision behind this ministry and the importance of supporting women in leadership within the church community?

My vision behind this ministry is to provide an online academy and digital application for ministry wives to receive coaching, mentorship, and counseling in a safe place. This vision will allow us to reach women globally which in the past we have only been able to do on a small scale. This will allow us to further our mission.

Dr. Nikki currently hosts a weekly talk show Thursday’s on the First Black Female – Owned radio station: Green Wood Beat. Her Radio show is entitled: Love Conquers All: Fireproofing families.

– Can you share your vision for your show and what you hope listeners gain from your platform weekly?

Our vision for this program is to simply help heal and rebuild families. This is important because Tulsa is the historic landmark for the Tulsa Race Massacre in 1921 where black businesses were burned to the ground. Lives destroyed, families destroyed, and legacy destroyed. And I have the opportunity to help rebuild families through the vehicle of the media.

Can you share your vision for your show and what you hope listeners gain from your platform weekly?

And I have the opportunity to help rebuild families through the vehicle of the media. My hope and prayer is that every listener is equipped, empowered, and encouraged to change themselves and their families. We hope our listeners start to love more passionately, and we hope our listeners receive helpful strategies to build stronger families. More than anything we want our listeners to know that they are not responsible for the families they came from, only the ones they are building.

You can tune in from anywhere. We are on the air every Thursday at 2pm.

Here is the link:

https://www.radioline.co/en/radios/the_greenwood_beat_wfpg

– Your upcoming book, “My Husband’s Intercessor,” focuses on prayer and support for wives. What inspired you to write this book, and what do you hope readers will take away from it?

This book was written to help women do two things, learn the difference between praying for their husbands, rather than about them. Secondly, this book was written to show women exactly how to cast vision and mission for their assignment to pray for their husbands, what to pray for, and how to do it consistently.

– In addition to your written works, you’ve also recorded a devotional CD titled “My Husband’s Intercessor.” How do music and spoken word play a role in conveying your message of faith and empowerment?

Many of us are multi-talented, this is another vehicle to teach women how to pray for their husbands with a focus on reaching the next generation of wives, particularly the millennial generation and the generation Z who may not read but will listen.

– Your involvement with Build in Tulsa demonstrates your commitment to mentoring and coaching black and brown founders and leaders. Can you share more about your work with this organization and the importance of supporting minority entrepreneurs?

As a coach at Build in Tulsa, we focus on rebuilding black wall street. We help these minority founders launch and scale their businesses, help them gain access to financial capital, and to date one percent of minority founders have access to capital to launch and scale their businesses. Currently, I have helped countless founders launch their businesses, win thousands of dollars in capital, gain access to millionaire mentors, and make their self-care and families a priority.

– As an educator, mentor, and coach, what advice do you have for aspiring leaders who may be facing challenges or doubts in pursuing their goals?

My signature advice is to recognize that your leadership is a privilege, and it must be stewarded with accountability and integrity. Do what you are afraid to do. And recognize that your journey is uniquely yours and it is dangerous to compare your journey with someone else’s.

– What are your aspirations for the future of your ministry, coaching, and advocacy work? How do you envision continuing to make a difference in the lives of others, both locally and globally?

My aspiration for ministry is that I continue to obey the voice of God to serve those whom He has called me to with anointing, integrity, and accountability. As a coach, I desire to continue to help women in leadership find and walk in their God-given purpose and to have successful marriages and families. Locally, I want to encourage, empower, and equip families to build sustainable legacy. Globally, I want to ensure that God’s name is made great and that HIS design for families is restored in the Earth. God’s design for families is the only blueprint that will yield the fruit that will remain.

– What is your definition of a Pretty Woman Who Hustles?

A pretty woman who hustles is a woman who knows that her beauty is multifaceted and not only related to appearance. Beauty is demonstrated in everything she does. Her hustle is designed to improve her quality of life, to ensure her family’s legacy, to empower her community, and to give glory to her God.

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Website: www.drnikkispeaks.com and www.equiphernow.com

Set Feux to release dreamy self-titled nostalgic pop album

April 28, 2024Posted in entertainmentTagged album-review, music, new music, review, reviewsLeave a comment

Set Feux (a.k.a. Toronto based musician, Diana Planche) blends dreamy, sometimes bittersweet, nostalgic pop with lush vocal harmonies, ambient synths, guitars and sax on her debut self titled album, ‘Set Feux’,which released on 19^th April 2024.

Planche spent her formative years singing in church choirs and performing in community theatre productions. After finishing her studies in classical music at Queen’s University, she began writing her own songs, and eventually received an OAC and F.A.C.T.O.R grant to produce her first album released in 2009. In 2010, she joined indie rock band, The Paint Movement (Nevado Music) as a singer/keyboard player, and in 2011 released their self-titled album produced by Dave Newfeld (Super Furry Animals, Broken Social Scene). The Paint Movement toured extensively over Canada opening for bands like Yukon Blonde, Zeus and the Pains of Being Pure at Heart. In 2015, Planche toured Europe with Toronto singer songwriter, Barzin. Upon returning from the European tour, Planche began working on new material with long time collaborator, Kevin Kralik (wearenotwhoweare, Mass Paves) and her husband, Barzin (Toronto based singer/songwriter) for what would become, ‘Set Feux’.

The album took over 5 years to complete, recorded in Toronto and Hamilton. The songs explore love, passion, loneliness and the overwhelming desire to unravel the mystery of one’s self. Take for example debut single ‘Say It Again’, a gorgeous reflective track that weaves piano, infectious rhythms and Planche’s stunning airy vocals into a spellbinding nostalgic pop gem to die for.

On ‘Say It Again’, Planche explains, “Sometimes I feel unknown to myself and I’m searching for the world to reflect myself back. The song explores the theme of the multiplicity that exists in all of us. I think when I wrote the song, I was remembering the loneliness I felt in my childhood alongside a close spiritual connection. The song is partly about a longing to recapture some of that.”

Musically, Set Feux’s songs reflect diverse influences, ranging from R ‘n’ B/soul to the pop/folk genres that Planche has been inspired by throughout her life. Her influences range from Debussy to Dusty Springfield, Fleetwood Mac, Pat Benatar, Kate Bush, Lauryn Hill, Imogen Heap, Wilco, Feist and Solange. But whilst Planche allows all of these influences to come forth on the album, she maintains her own distinct identity and voice as an artist, honouring the journey she’s taken to get here.

The album was mixed by Howie Beck at his studio in Toronto. Howie is a Canadian musician, mixer and producer. He has been nominated for three Juno Awards in Canada on three occasions for Adult Alternative Album, Engineer of the Year and Producer of the Year (2017). He has produced and/ or mixed albums for The Weather Station, Hannah Georgas, Dragonette, Charlotte Day Wilson and Sarah Harmer. The album was mastered by Joao Carvalho, a grammy nominated mastering engineer, who has worked on albums by some of Canada’s finest artists such as KD Lang, Tanya Tagaq, Buffy St. Marie, Carly Rae Jepsen and Charlotte Day Wilson to name a few.

Can you share the inspiration behind your stage name, Set Feux, and what it signifies for you as a musician.

The name translates to “set fires”. I liked its metaphorical implication, as I’ve had to “set fire” to many things in my life that were no longer serving me. Fire also signifies rebirth, and the potential to create something new from the ashes.

How would you describe the musical journey and evolution that led to the creation of your debut self-titled album?

We didn’t have a lot of money growing up, but my mom always thought music was important and managed to buy my older brother and me a small Casio keyboard to start playing on. I distinctly remember the joy it gave me to hit the keys and create something that had come out of my imagination. I didn’t have any clue what I was doing, but a seed was planted and I grew up with the desire to create. When I decided to pursue music as an artist, I was still discovering who I was and what I wanted to say. It took years of singing and playing in various bands, and making albums with others before I was able to hone in on my voice. During that time, I discovered I liked to collaborate with others, as it has a way of igniting my creativity. Barzin encouraged me to write these songs and Kevin helped me to experiment with new ideas on them. We had developed a great working relationship with each other, I trusted their instincts implicitly. When you’re working in that kind of environment, the possibilities are endless and I’m grateful we were able to make something we’re all proud of.

Can you share more on the artists and genres that have inspired your sound, and how these influences come together in your music?

I’ve been influenced by many styles of music throughout my life. My first inspiration came from singing in church and I still find sacred music deeply moving. I think part of it comes from the mystery of faith and that mystery somehow plays out in the music. The songs of Billie Holiday, Dusty Springfield, Annie Lennox, Kate Bush, and Lauryn Hill have all stayed with me over the years. I fell in love with their vocal character and mastery. They all have unique styles, phrasing, and timbre. I wouldn’t say I’m completely conscious of these inspirations when I’m writing, it’s all pretty unconscious really, but if there’s one unifying thread, I’d say it’s my attraction and attention to the human voice.

The debut album Set Feux took over 5 years to complete. Can you take us through the creative process and the challenges you faced during its production?

I can be quite obsessional when I’m working on something I love, and while it’s great to have the ability to hyperfocus on your work, it can become quite emotionally draining. So, I needed to take breaks and work on other things, which was one of the reasons why the album took five years to make. The past five years have also been filled with a lot of personal growth for me. I got married in 2019 and then not long after there was the global pandemic. We were also trying to start a family and I struggled with the emotional highs and lows that came with that. I sort of went through a bit of an existential crisis. Music became a place of refuge for me throughout this period, and I’d like to think I can look back on things with a little light, knowing that we created something beautiful from it.

How did working with long-time collaborators and your husband, Barzin contributes to the unique sound of the album.

This album was a true collaboration between Barzin, Kevin Kralik, and myself. Most of the songs started on the piano. I’d share an idea or the scaffold of a song with Barzin, and he would encourage me to continue developing it. Barzin anchored this project and was so committed to seeing it through to the end. I am still in awe of his work ethic and determination to create art.

Kevin and I first started playing together in an indie rock band, but we always talked about working on something outside of that. I began bringing the songs Barzin and I had been writing together to Kev, and we started recording them in his home studio. Kev added his unique experimental ideas and slowly, the songs took shape into the sound you hear on the album. I’m sincerely grateful we were able to make this record together, and ultimately, I think the album benefited from all three of our distinct musical personalities.

Can you share a bit about the significance of the lyrics in Say It Again how does it connect to your personal experiences?

“Say it Again” is a song about searching for meaning in your life and looking back to one’s childhood to try and recapture something that was lost. I was very shy and sensitive as a child, which I think inevitably led me to feelings of loneliness. I remember being comforted by my spirituality and there’s a part of me that longs to return to it.

Are there specific songs on the album that hold particularly meaningful stories or emotions for you?

“Don’t stop”. It’s unusual for me to write lyrics quickly, I typically have to chip away at it slowly. However, on this particular night, I was alone in our apartment and I just felt inspired to finish the song. I ended up writing the lyrics and recording the vocals in one shot. The whole process felt a little mysterious to me, but I connected to how the song turned out, a little like a gospel hymn.

With the debut album set for release on April 19th, what can fans and listeners expect from Set Feux in the coming months?

Over the coming months, we’ll be releasing a couple of new singles and music videos from the album, starting with “Jumbotron”. Multimedia visual artist and writer, Ellie Anglin created the video for “Jumbotron” using collage and it’s truly a wonderfully imaginative piece. Followed by the single, “Young and Lonely” and another new music video created by Barzin. I can’t wait to share them.

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Redefining Heroism: Kerry’s Journey from War Zones to Award-Winning Roles

April 28, 2024Posted in Men Hustle TooTagged adversity, life, mental health, personal development, resilienceLeave a comment

A powerhouse actor whose magnetic performances have captivated audiences across screens big and small. You may recognize him from his standout roles in hit TV series like “Atlanta” or from his heartwarming portrayal in BET Her’s “The Waiting Room.” But Kerry’s talent transcends genres, from spreading holiday cheer in “A Merry Single Christmas” to tackling the gritty world of crime in “Law & Order: Organized Crime.”

Yet, Kerry’s journey is more than just a reel of on-screen success—it’s a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. Before gracing our screens, Kerry served as a United States Marine Corps Veteran, confronting the horrors of war with unwavering courage. Now, as a single father raising a teenage daughter, his real-life story is as compelling as any script he’s brought to life.

Kerry’s story doesn’t end there, he’s not just a performer; he’s an advocate. Through his work, he sheds light on the challenges faced by veterans, lending his voice to make a difference in their lives.

Your journey from being a Marine Corps Veteran to launching a successful acting career is truly inspiring. Can you share more about the challenges you faced during your transition, particularly dealing with homelessness, and how you overcame this period of your life?

My journey from being a Marine Corps Veteran to launching a successful acting career has indeed been a rollercoaster ride filled with challenges, one of the most daunting being my struggle with homelessness. After leaving Camp Pendleton with nothing but a box of MREs and a dream to make it big in entertainment, I found myself grappling with the harsh reality of not having a stable place to call home.

For a while, my fellow Marine’s beat-up 2004 Chevy Malibu became my makeshift shelter. It was cramped, uncomfortable, and far from ideal, but it was the only refuge I had as I navigated the uncertainties of transitioning from military life to civilian pursuits. Nights were spent huddled in the backseat behind grocery stores or in empty parking decks, the dim glow of streetlights serving as my only companions in the darkness.

During this time, the feeling of uncertainty weighed heavily on me. There were moments when self-doubt threatened to consume me, and the road ahead seemed insurmountable. But amidst the struggles, I clung to hope like a lifeline, refusing to let go of my aspirations despite the odds stacked against me.

I turned to platforms like Myspace, scouring for opportunities and occasionally finding a couch to crash on temporarily. But these fleeting moments of respite only served as brief respites from the harsh reality of my situation. Despite the setbacks and disappointments, I persisted, fueled by a relentless determination to turn my dreams into reality.

Overcoming homelessness was not easy, nor was it a quick fix. It required resilience, resourcefulness, and an unwavering belief in myself. I sought out every opportunity, no matter how small, and poured my heart and soul into honing my craft as an actor.

Slowly but surely, my perseverance began to pay off. Bit by bit, I started to gain traction in the entertainment industry, landing small roles and making valuable connections along the way. Each success, no matter how modest, served as validation that I was on the right path, propelling me forward with renewed determination.

Today, as I reflect on my journey from homelessness to success, I am reminded of the power of resilience and the importance of never giving up on your dreams. My experiences have shaped me into the person I am today, instilling in me a deep sense of gratitude for every opportunity and a profound empathy for those facing similar struggles.

While the road may have been fraught with challenges, it has also been marked by triumphs and moments of profound growth. Through it all, I have emerged stronger, more resilient, and more determined than ever to continue chasing my dreams and inspiring others to do the same.

As a full-time single father, director, gamer, and acting coach, you wear many hats. How do you balance your various roles and responsibilities while pursuing your passions and career goals?

So picture this: I’m a full-time single father, actor, director, producer, gamer, and acting coach all rolled into one chaotic package. But you know who keeps me grounded in reality? My daughter, aka my little life coach. She’s like my GPS, constantly reminding me that there’s a real world outside of film and television. And get this—she’s not just my rock; she’s my secret weapon in the industry. Yep, you heard it right. Little ‘Jr.’ here has helped me book a whopping 95% of the network roles I’ve snagged. Talk about a pint-sized powerhouse!

Now, let’s talk about that pause button on my career and love life. Yeah, it was on full blast for a few years while I played the role of super-dad, raising my daughter solo. But you know what? I wouldn’t trade those chaotic, sleep-deprived nights for anything. Because every moment spent with her made me want to be a better man and a better actor. Why? Simple. I want to make her proud to call me dad.

So how do I balance it all? Well, it’s like a high-stakes game of multitasking Tetris. Sometimes pieces fit perfectly, and other times, it’s like trying to shove a square block into a round hole. But hey, I’m learning as I go, and I’ve got my mini-coach cheering me on every step of the way. So bring it on, the universe—I’ve got this, hat collection and all!

Your advocacy for physical and mental health is commendable, especially considering your own experiences as a disabled veteran with P.T.S.D. How do you prioritize self-care, and what advice do you have for others who may be facing similar challenges?

As a disabled veteran living with PTSD, my advocacy stems from personal experiences that highlight the importance of prioritizing self-care. I firmly believe that self-care is paramount in managing the challenges associated with PTSD and embarking on the journey towards recovery.

The goal of my advocacy efforts is to foster a more supportive and empathetic environment for veterans grappling with PTSD. It’s crucial to dispel misconceptions surrounding PTSD, as its portrayal as solely psychotic perpetuates public fear and misunderstanding of war veterans. Most cases do not fit this stereotype, and it’s imperative to communicate this truth.

One of the key messages I emphasize is that seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It’s a courageous step towards healing. I advocate for destigmatizing mental health treatment and encouraging individuals to reach out for support when needed.

Central to my advocacy is the reminder of how vital self-care is in managing PTSD. Only you know yourself best, and self-care practices tailored to your needs can significantly impact your well-being. It’s essential to prioritize activities that promote physical and mental health, whether it’s engaging in exercise, practicing mindfulness, or seeking professional therapy.

Above all, my advocacy aims to convey a message of hope: that recovery is possible. No matter how challenging the journey may seem, with support, self-care, and resilience, veterans living with PTSD can find their path to healing. You are not alone, and there are resources and communities available to support you every step of the way.

You’ve mentioned being a full-time bully deterrent. Can you elaborate on this role and how it ties into your philosophy of strength and resilience?

As someone with a background in the US Marines, as an EMT, a bouncer, and armed base security, I’ve often found myself in the role of a protector. This extends to my philosophy of strength and resilience. I see myself as a full-time bully deterrent because I understand both sides of the equation. Having been on the receiving end of bullying, I recognize the pain and fear it can inflict. Most bullies operate out of fear themselves, targeting those they perceive as weaker without understanding the consequences of their actions.

My approach is to intervene when I detect bullying, stepping in to fight for those who are unable to defend themselves, provided they are in the right. This stems from a belief that standing up to bullies is essential for maintaining balance and justice in our world. However, I also acknowledge that a certain level of adversity, including some forms of bullying, can serve as a form of “stress” that helps individuals develop resilience and an understanding of life’s duality.

Just as iron sharpens iron, facing challenges and adversity can strengthen our character and prepare us for the realities of the world. It’s through overcoming fear and adversity that true bravery is cultivated. My role as a bully deterrent is rooted in this belief, as I strive to protect others while also recognizing the importance of facing and overcoming adversity as a means of personal growth and resilience.

Your mantras, including “Don’t Quit, Grit!” and “Hard ain’t impossible,” reflect a mindset of determination and perseverance. How do these principles guide you in both your personal and professional life?

“Throughout my life, I’ve lived by the mantras ‘Don’t Quit, Grit!’ and ‘Hard ain’t impossible,’ and they’ve been guiding lights both personally and professionally. You see, I’ve faced some tough challenges – from being homeless to serving in a war – but I’ve always held onto the belief that perseverance pays off. It’s like those Rocky movies I love; no matter how tough the fight, as long as you keep pushing forward, there’s a reward waiting at the other end.

By 2005, I had experienced more than my fair share of trials, but I refused to let them define me. I delved into music and even shared stages with icons like Ja Rule, KISS, and Destiny’s Child. It’s not about the setbacks; it’s about how you bounce back from them. I survived Marine Corps boot camp, arguably the toughest of its kind, and endured the perils of war in Iraq – bombings, gunfire, you name it – yet I emerged stronger each time.

For me, it’s all about focusing on solutions rather than dwelling on problems. That mindset has seen me through the darkest of times, reminding me that as long as I keep fighting until the end, I’ll come out the other side, whole and intact. It’s about resilience, determination, and unwavering belief in the power of persistence. And trust me, that’s an attitude I bring to every aspect of my life.”

As someone who has navigated through adversity and achieved success, what advice would you give to individuals facing their hardships or setbacks?

Navigating through adversity is an inherent part of the human experience, and it’s in those moments of challenge and setback that our true resilience and determination shine through. If I were to distill my advice into a guiding principle for those facing their hardships, it would be this: Stay Focused on Your Why.

Life’s journey is rarely a straight path; it’s filled with twists, turns, and unexpected detours. Along the way, you’ll encounter obstacles that may seem insurmountable. But by anchoring yourself to your purpose, your “Why,” you can weather even the most turbulent storms with unwavering resolve.

Your “Why” is the driving force behind your actions, the deep-rooted motivation that propels you forward when the going gets tough. It’s the reason you get out of bed in the morning, the passion that fuels your dreams and aspirations. By staying connected to your Why, you can maintain a clear sense of direction, even when the path ahead seems obscured by darkness.

But staying focused on your Why isn’t just about maintaining a laser-like focus on your goals; it’s also about cultivating resilience, positivity, and unwavering commitment. It’s about recognizing that setbacks are not roadblocks but rather stepping stones on the path to success.

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity, to turn setbacks into opportunities for growth and learning. It’s about embracing challenges as opportunities to prove your strength and determination, rather than allowing them to defeat you.

Positivity is a powerful force that can transform even the most daunting obstacles into manageable challenges. By maintaining a positive outlook, you can cultivate a mindset of possibility and abundance, allowing you to see opportunities where others see only barriers.

And finally, staying true to your goals means remaining steadfast in your commitment to your vision, even when faced with doubt, fear, or uncertainty. It’s about trusting in yourself and your abilities, and never losing sight of the life you envision for yourself.

So, to those facing their hardships or setbacks, I would say this: Stay Focused on Your Why. Stay resilient, stay positive, and stay committed to your goals. Remember that the path to success may be fraught with obstacles, but by staying true to your purpose, you can overcome adversity and create the life you envision for yourself.

How do you plan to continue making an impact, both personally and professionally?

Well, you know, making an impact, both personally and professionally, is something I hold close to my heart. Ask me tomorrow and I promise I’ll tell you tomorrow. But hey, let me give you a little peek into what’s cooking in my world.

There are several exciting projects on the horizon for me, my friend. I’m always on the lookout for roles that not only challenge me creatively but also allow me to keep growing as an artist. Right now, I’m in talks for a couple of potential film projects that have piqued my interest. One is this gripping drama that dives deep into complex human emotions. The other? Oh, it’s a big-budget action thriller that’s promising to be one heck of an adrenaline rush.

But hey, it’s not just about the silver screen for me. Nope. I’m exploring opportunities in other areas of entertainment, too. Like, I’m thinking about diving into executive producing a television series that tackles some important social issues, you know? Stuff that gets people talking in a real, thought-provoking way.

And let’s not forget about the personal stuff, my friend. Personal growth and well-being are just as important to me. I’m all about spending quality time with my family and friends, diving into hobbies that light me up, and investing in self-care practices. Because hey, maintaining that balance in life? That’s the key.

So yeah, I’m pumped about what the future holds. With each new project and opportunity, I’m all in, pushing myself creatively and making sure I’m leaving a positive mark both on and off the screen.

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Nourish, Strengthen, Enhance: The Evolution of Beauty with El Moon

April 22, 2024April 29, 2024Posted in Business FeaturesLeave a comment

El Moon is a pioneering force in the beauty industry, blending expertise in esthetics with a passion for enhancing natural beauty. With a background as a licensed cosmetologist and esthetician, El has honed her skills over years of experience, becoming a three-time certified lash and brow artist.

Her journey into the world of lash extensions began in 2010 when she was captivated by Jennifer Lopez’s mention of lash extensions on the red carpet. Inspired by the transformative power of lashes, El realized her calling to bring out the natural beauty of her client’s eyes.

As she delved deeper into the world of lash extensions, El recognized a common issue among her clients – many had fine and weak natural lashes, necessitating breaks from extensions. Determined to find a solution, she identified a gap in the market: a vegan, eco-friendly serum that could promote lash growth without compromising the integrity of lash extensions. Thus, krēm Lash and Brow Serum was born.

Driven by her vision of empowering women to embrace their natural beauty, El developed krēm Lash and Brow Serum to not only enhance lash and brow growth but also to strengthen and nourish existing hairs. Her innovative approach combines science and beauty, offering a solution that caters to the needs of lash extension enthusiasts while promoting the health of natural lashes and brows.

El Moon’s dedication to quality, innovation, and customer satisfaction has cemented her reputation as a trailblazer in the beauty industry. With krēm Lash and Brow Serum, she continues to redefine beauty standards, one lash at a time.

We had the opportunity of sitting down with El to discuss going beyond the extensions and how her vision is Revolutionizing Lash and Brow Care.

Could you walk us through your journey into the beauty industry and what inspired you to specialize in lash extensions?

I remember as young as four years old I was always inspired by beauty, beautiful people, jewelry, fashion, and art. I was watching the red carpet on television 11 years ago and they were interviewing a well-known A-List celebrity what caught my attention was when she was being interviewed, they didn’t ask what she was wearing. They looked into her eyes and were floored by how amazing her lashes looked. She then began to explain it was a process called lash extensions and the lash artist applied a mink lash on each of her natural lashes. This is where my curiosity was sparked and how my obsession began!

How did your background as a licensed cosmetologist and esthetician contribute to your expertise in lash and brow artistry?

As a beauty expert, I see faces in a different light and I began to explore the concept that the eyes are the windows to your soul and the brows are the frame of the face. So I decided to niche my expertise specifically to framing the face to enhance each client’s natural beauty.

What challenges did you encounter when first starting, and how did you overcome them?

I believe that because I have stood in my purpose, the universe opened doors for me to give my gift to the world. I didn’t have a tremendous amount of challenges because I was on my soul path. The challenges were to show up as my best self with every client, to educate myself through years of hands-on work with a diverse clientele, and to learn from my mistakes in running my own business by evolving and getting better every day. Because I was aligned with my purpose, I enjoyed every minute of these challenges.

Can you share more about the specific needs and concerns of your clients that led you to develop krēm Lash and Brow Serum?

Throughout my journey as a lash artist, I discovered that approximately 80% of my clients had fine and/or weak lashes. Additionally, they desired lash extensions despite having brittle lashes. Most serums have oils that disrupt the retention of the lash extension. I saw the need to create a product derived from plant extracts to address the promotion of lash density, growth, and then length guaranteed and in that order. I wanted my clients’ lashes to be naturally strong while also being able to use my product on their lash extensions. My product is for the woman who wants to experience her lashes and her lash extensions in health and abundance over time.

What sets krēm Lash and Brow Serum apart from other products on the market, and how does it address the common issues faced by lash extension enthusiasts?

I’ve combined both a lash and brow serum for convenience. My product is 100% vegan and cruelty-free. krēm Lash and Brow serum can be worn on both natural lashes or with lash extensions to treat, protect, and enhance the growth of both lashes and brows. My product is for the modern woman who is delegating her life and enhancing her beauty using quality products she can trust.

Could you elaborate on the science behind krēm Lash and Brow Serum and how it promotes lash and brow growth while maintaining the integrity of lash extensions?

The krēm Lash and Brow Serum is thoughtfully formulated with bioactive compounds such as Panax Ginseng and Ginger Extract, which stimulate the hair follicles to enhance the natural growth cycle. Peptides, specifically Tripeptide 1, act to reinforce and volumize each strand, essentially providing the structural building blocks for more robust hair. As for lash extensions, the serum is carefully balanced to nurture the natural lashes without compromising the adhesive, ensuring both enhancement and health coexist beautifully.

What are your plans for expanding the krēm brand and further revolutionizing the beauty industry?

We’re on a mission to not just expand but to evolve the krēm brand, tapping into the heart of innovation and convenience with each step. Our roadmap includes joining cutting-edge biotechnology to create even more potent, sustainable beauty solutions. We plan to produce a full lineup of serums that are as kind to the environment as they are effective. We’re talking about a wave of new formulas that work wonders, feel incredible, and uphold our commitment to vegan, cruelty-free beauty. It’s all about raising the bar for what consumers expect from their beauty products while giving them something they can feel good about.

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Leading with Numbers: Yvette D. Best’s Mission to Turn Employees into Leaders

April 22, 2024Posted in Pretty Cover StoriesLeave a comment

Yvette D. Best has been in the accounting field since 1989, a four-time best-selling author, IRS Enrolled Agent, and Certified Tax Coach with an MBA degree from Belhaven University. Her firm Best Tax Solutions LLC is a boutique woman- led accounting firm keeping small businesses and individuals IRS and state-compliant while increasing their net profits. She turns employees into leaders and helps them develop a 7-figure lifestyle. She enjoys a live-work-play lifestyle in Fayetteville, GA since 2011.

We had the opportunity of sitting down with Yvette to discuss her mission of Empowering women in finance.

With over three decades of experience in the accounting field, what initially drew you to accounting, and how has your journey evolved over the years?

I was drawn to accounting because of its fundamental role in both business and personal decision-making. Over the years, my journey has evolved from learning the basics to becoming adept at navigating complex tax laws and offering strategic tax planning. My ongoing commitment to education and passion for helping others has been a driving force in my career.

As a best-selling author, IRS Enrolled Agent, and Certified Tax Coach, you possess a unique blend of expertise. How does this contribute to the services you offer at Best Tax Solutions LLC?

My diverse expertise allows me to offer comprehensive services beyond simple tax preparation. At Best Tax Solutions LLC, we provide strategic tax planning and financial coaching, helping clients maximize opportunities and minimize tax liabilities, thanks to my background as an Enrolled Agent and Certified Tax Coach.

Could you elaborate on what sets Best Tax Solutions LLC apart from other accounting firms, particularly in terms of your approach to working with small businesses and individuals?

What sets us apart is our personalized approach. We focus on building strong, personal relationships and understanding each client’s unique situation. This allows us to tailor our services to be most effective, ensuring our clients don’t just feel like another number in a file.

Your focus on keeping clients IRS and state-compliant while increasing their net profits is commendable. Can you share some strategies or techniques you utilize to achieve this balance effectively?

Certainly! We prioritize proactive tax planning and education, ensuring our clients understand the best financial management practices. We leverage every allowable deduction and strategically advise on business growth to balance compliance and profit maximization.

You mentioned your ability to turn employees into leaders and help them develop a 7-figure lifestyle. How do you integrate leadership development into your accounting practice, and what impact does it have on your client’s success?

Leadership development is key in our practice. We mentor and provide ongoing training for our team, encouraging them to take initiative and lead projects. This empowerment not only fosters personal and professional growth but also enhances the services we provide, directly impacting our clients’ success.

Living in Fayetteville, GA since 2011, how has the local community influenced your current walk, if at all?

The community spirit in Fayetteville has greatly influenced my approach. It’s reinforced the importance of community involvement and personal connections, both of which are integral to how we operate at Best Tax Solutions LLC.

With the ever-changing landscape of tax laws and regulations, how do you stay updated and ensure that your clients receive the most accurate and relevant advice?

I stay updated through 100 hours or more of continuous education each year, attending workshops, and networking with other professionals. This commitment helps me provide timely and effective advice to our clients.

As a woman-led firm, do you encounter any unique challenges or opportunities in the accounting industry, and how do you navigate them?

As a woman in a traditionally male-dominated industry, I face challenges such as breaking stereotypes and biases. However, these are also opportunities to demonstrate leadership and inspire other women in the field. We navigate these dynamics by focusing on professionalism and excellence in our work.

Looking ahead, what are your goals and aspirations for Best Tax Solutions LLC, and how do you plan to continue making a positive impact in the lives of your clients and community?

Our goals include expanding our client base, enhancing our services, and providing impactful solutions. We aim to adapt to the financial landscape changes, ensuring our community and clients benefit from informed and effective strategies.

What is your definition of a Pretty Woman Who Hustles?

A Pretty Woman Who Hustles is a driven woman who pursues her goals with passion and perseverance and uplifts others along her journey. She embraces challenges, stands firm in her values, and works tirelessly to create success for herself and her community.

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Website: www.BestTaxSolutions.us

Beyond the Chair: Rasheena Brooks’ Evolution from Hairstylist to Business Educator

April 22, 2024April 25, 2024Posted in Pretty Cover StoriesLeave a comment

Rasheena Brooks, Hairstylist of 24 years, Color & Business Educator, Platform artist, and Co-Owner of the #1 natural hair products In the world, WOW Natural Hair Products. Rasheena specializes in Natural Styling, Color & Silkening treatments becoming one of the most sought-after stylists from New Jersey!

As a leader in the industry, Rasheena is very passionate about the Beauty industry and has mentored and taught thousands of stylist hair education. Rasheena has decided to expand by not only offering hair services to clients but also by offering continued education for new and seasoned Beauty pros!! Digital courses are currently available for Beauty professionals. Rasheena believes to be successful in the Beauty industry, you must always continue your education.

Can you tell us about your journey in the hair industry and how you became a sought-after stylist in New Jersey?

Like most of us in the Beauty industry, my journey started as a kid when I discovered I had a passion for hair because I loved to do my own all the time. Then it turned into me doing my friends and family and all of the people around me saw that I had a talent. I am a New Jersey native and I was fortunate enough to go to a high school that offered the cosmetology course to students who qualified for the class. My senior year in high school, my school took us to the state board and I graduated high school with my license. I’ve been in a salon since then.

From there, I assisted for a while in a couple of different salons. I learned a lot and when I was ready, I applied at a natural hair salon, because I had a passion for natural hair, and became a full-time stylist. I recommend everyone start off assisting first because you do learn so much in that position. Working in that salon was great for me! That’s where my career took off for me. I got serious, got business cards and I would get out every day and promote myself. I started to bring in clients and they would also promote me. Before I knew it, I had clients left and right. At that time, natural hair wasn’t popular. Everyone still had relaxers. Since I was one of the few who did natural hair & locs, my name rung bells when it came to those services because I became known for doing them. So when they became big, I was one of the stylists who always got recommended!

As a hairstylist for 24 years, what inspired you to venture into hair education and mentorship for other beauty professionals?

What Inspired me to become an educator early in my career is, that I was always the type that always wanted to learn. I wanted to be the best so I constantly was taking classes and always staying abreast on what was going on in the Beauty industry because It’s constantly changing. Most people don’t know but in Beauty school, you are learning what you need to know to pass the test. Once you graduate, the success of your career is solely based on you! I was hungry!!!! What I realized is I had the talent but lacked the business education of the industry so I would constantly seek those classes. I would go to hair shows and be fascinated with the educators. I knew I wanted to do what they did. I would always share what I learned with other stylists in my circle anyway and I realized I enjoyed helping others. That’s what sparked my career in teaching and platform artistry.

What motivated you to co-create WOW Natural Hair Products, and what sets them apart from other products in the market?

To be honest, a product line was always a thought in my head but my business partner, Omar Townes, is the person that should get the credit. He is the owner of the biggest salon suites in the world, Cut Creaters Salon Suites and he is the original creator of a product line he had previously. WOW was something that came to him. He came to me about it and boom, WOW was born. What makes us different is our products are alcohol-free and our products are made by stylists. Our loc gel causes no flaking and no white residue but must be used correctly! We have products that are great for the hair & scalp. Our products for the scalp do not clog the pores.

Could you share some insights into the importance of continued education for beauty professionals, and how it contributes to success in the industry?

Continued education is extremely important. As I stated earlier, things are constantly moving and changing. You have to stay current or you will get left behind. I think if Beauty professionals realized how important continued education is then there would be fewer lawsuits happening in the world and also more Beauty professionals would be able to retire the right way if they were educated better on their finances. That’s probably one of the biggest issues I see happening. We have to work the rest of our lives because we don’t know how to set ourselves up for retirement.

With digital courses now available, what topics do you cover, and how do you ensure that your educational content is relevant and valuable for both new and seasoned beauty professionals?

I currently have a digital product available for Beauty professionals called, Foundations and Formulations Color Theory. Although the industry is constantly evolving, color theory pretty much stays the same. I get back to the basics in the video.

What advice would you give to aspiring hairstylists who are looking to make a mark in the industry?

The best advice I would give to an aspiring hairstylist would be to always be consistent, always continue your education and GET YOU A MENTOR!

How do you stay current with the latest trends and techniques in hairstyling, and how do you incorporate them into your work and educational programs?

I stay current by attending classes, and trade shows, and ever since covid, now we have virtual classes for people who may not be able to travel or just want to learn in the comfort of their own home. Anything new I learn, I implement it right away! With all of these ways of getting an education, there is no excuse why Beauty professionals shouldn’t always be learning.

As a co-owner of a successful hair product line, how do you balance your roles as a stylist, educator, and entrepreneur?

Balance is very hard lol but I am grateful that I no longer have to be behind the chair full-time. At this point in my career, I’m in the salon about 1-2 days a week and our product line has become my number 1 focus. Starting a company of this magnitude requires a lot of attention and I am currently in the process of putting systems in place and building a team around the world for WOW as we are growing.

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Embracing Your Authentic “No”: A Guide to Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care

April 20, 2024Posted in Mental Health/Self CareLeave a comment

Pearl Knapp-Chiarenza is best known for helping women authentically put themselves first without guilt. Professionally, she is known as a Transformational Life Coach, Author, and Speaker who helps women become the SHERO of their lives.

Providing 1:1 as well as group coaching, weekly community SHERO meetings, and yearly women’s pajama retreats, she loves empowering women to put on their “SHERO Cape” and assume the superpower of a positive mindset despite any challenges life throws your way.

She is a published author of books Behind Her Brand: Volume 6, Behind Her Weight Loss, Success Factor, Yes, God, Against All Odds, Everyday Women Guide to The Mindset of a Successful Woman, and soon-to-release Beyond Skin Deep – Stories of Intercultural Adoptions.

She has been married to Chuck for 35 years and is a mom of two boys Matt (Forever 25) and Nate 23.

Pearl is exceptionally honored to have received a day named after her in Syracuse, NY as well as the Women of Worth Award in Las Vegas, NV.

Can you share a bit about your journey with people-pleasing and how it led you to become an advocate for putting on your “SHERO” cape?

I struggled with chronic people-pleasing for many years. From negating my boundaries to putting everyone else’s needs before my own to caretaking for my family, I was often last on my list of people to please. Taking time for my own needs and wants felt selfish when there were so many people depending and relying on me.

With the support of my family, I started to put on my “SHERO” Cape and began to prioritize my self-care, create stronger boundaries, and begin to truly please myself, before other people. The journey has not been easy, but it has been so worth it.

Being a people pleaser means not understanding that the word “No” is a complete sentence. We are socialized to please other people from a young age and often feel that saying no, or not right now, makes us a bad person, a wrong person. When we people please, we are compulsively consumed with the needs and desires of other people rather than hoping, dreaming, believing, and embodying for ourselves.

Even though I am sometimes tempted to fall into old patterns of people-pleasing, embodying your inner Shero changed not only my life but the lives of those around us as well.

What inspired you to start speaking out about the importance of boundaries and self-care, especially for women?

I realized as I was on my journey that I was not alone, many women carry the generational expectations that we have to take care of everything and everyone before ourselves.

In your experience, what are some common challenges that people-pleasers face, and how do these challenges impact their well-being?

People-pleasing is characterized by caring so much about other people’s needs that you forget to care about your own. When you people please, you are telling your body and nervous system that its needs and desires do not matter, and essentially, shutting yourself down. Over time, this wears on the brain and the body, causing you to struggle mentally and physically.

People-pleasing is a vicious cycle of trying to prove your love and devotion to other people while deeply neglecting love and devotion for yourself.

Your upcoming book, “Beyond Skin Deep – Stories of Intercultural Adoptions,” seems to delve into deeply personal narratives. How do themes of identity and acceptance tie into your message of self-care and authenticity?

We had the honor of adopting our son Matt at birth and watching his struggle with identity and peer bullying brought many mental struggles for him. He wanted to share his story to empower other families walking or considering walking the journey of intercultural adoptions to be aware of the mental fitness of the adoptee. It is our goal that sharing his journey will empower families and adoptees to know that they have to put their mental fitness first.

Stress Awareness Month is approaching, and your emphasis on people-pleasing and boundaries seems particularly relevant. Can you discuss how setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care can reduce stress and improve overall well-being?

Setting boundaries, especially around difficult situations, allows us to create a safe space of our happiness, and the opportunity to communicate our realistic expectations on the path to strengthen our relationships.

What advice would you give to individuals who struggle with balancing their desire to help others with their own needs and boundaries?

People-pleasing will make you well-liked in the community or within your work group, but it does not give lasting advantages in the long run. This tendency will leave you drained, burnt out, and struggling versus enthusiastic and ready to tackle the day. People-pleasing might help you win in the beginning, but it will never be a long-term strategy for success– only a recipe for disaster in the long run.

Love yourself enough to choose the better path, even if it is momentarily uncomfortable. You will never go wrong by choosing yourself.

Could you share some practical strategies or exercises that individuals can use to start prioritizing themselves and setting healthier boundaries?

In 2015 I took an identity and destiny course where at the end of 6 weeks we had to give our “I am statement”. After reading mine a classmate called me out on how I was still saying I was a mom and wife and questioned why I still was hiding behind my titles. I realized I still did not know who I was and if I kept down this path I would be less happy.

So, I decided I needed to step into the sentence NO with focus, grabbing a small rock I committed to saying NO three times a day, and if at the end of the day I had not I needed to find a text or email that I would ensure that I said No to an ask.

It was hard, but the lesson that came was that all my Yes’ wasted my energy and I had been closing doors to others that could have shown up better than what my Yes was bringing!

From this story, I will share two practical strategies.

Firstly, take time to truly get to know yourself—without the titles. Get to know your likes, dislikes, passions, and dreams.

Secondly, embrace your authentic No. Set a goal for how many times per day you will say No—and stick to it! Over time, it will become more natural and your boundaries will organically become stronger.

Your advocacy work has gained recognition, including having a day named after you in Syracuse, NY. How does this acknowledgment impact your mission and your ability to reach more people with your message?

It warms my heart to know that my message is having an impact, but more importantly, my goal is that as the women I work with incorporate the tools into their lives they will be able to break the generational thoughts of our younger women.

Looking ahead, what are your hopes for the future of your advocacy work, and what do you envision for the individuals you aim to empower through your message of self-care and authenticity?

We are about to launch a Poppin Soulful Conversations with Peal tour around the country in June where we will be traveling in a vintage camper converted to a bougie mobile living room to meet women having meaningful conversations on the importance of the sentence “No” to others so that they become empowered to become their own SHERO becoming stronger, happier, empowered, radiant and original self by taking their dreams off the shelf. As we do so, we will also be reaching out to local nonprofits offering self-care swag bags to let the women know they are not alone in their journey.

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WEBSITE: https://www.wsliving.com/

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