Relationships, what kind do we want vs the kind that we need. Every human being has the need of a relationship. We were created with needs. There are the needs of emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. God created us to somehow nurture these needs in the lives of others through right relationships. Unfortunately, sometimes these needs are met but from the wrong source or person. So, in actuality, the needs really aren’t met. If we knew just how critically serious it was to have the right Godly relationships, there wouldn’t be so many divorces in the world today. When I speak about relationships, I can’t help but to emphasize on marriage.

If you are looking and praying for a Godly, Christ centered relationship, that will lead to a Godly marriage, let me share some sound advice with you. Know that who you hitch your wagon to is an extremely crucial decision. It cannot be based on looks or a feeling. Feelings are fickle and subject to change like the wind that blows. It is important that you select someone who shares your same beliefs in Christ, where relationships are concerned. Do not select someone because they meet a temporary need or desire. There is a difference in being alone and being lonely. Always refer to the scripture when in your waiting season for a mate. 

Amos 3:3 states, Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? This is such a helpful question for anyone desiring a relationship and especially marriage. If you start out in a relationship where both have different view points on very important subjects, such as promiscuity, then you may want to reconsider moving forward in the pursuit of dating or marriage. I have found that sometimes it’s not what we are disagreeing about anymore. It is the fact that we are not in agreement and can not walk together. The reason why you may have found it difficult to be in a healthy relationship, is because this is an individual you were never meant to walk with. 

If you are coming out of an unhealthy relationship that damaged you emotionally and mentally, it’s best to wait before jumping into another one. Pray that God sends the right people to render sound, Godly counsel. Join a prayer group that emphasizes prayer. Let God heal you completely. Learn who you are in Christ. Absorb what it truly means to forgive and to let your past bury itself. You owe nothing to your past. In order to choose the right relationship, one must be free and clear of any baggage from the old relationship. 

In every relationship, each person must know exactly who it is they are laboring with.

1 Thessalonians 5:12 states, simply to know those who labor among you. Although this speaks about relationships with leadership within the body of Christ, the spirit of the scripture can also be used in other relationships such as dating, engagements and marriages. It is of great importance to know the character and personality of any individual that you intend to be tied to in a relationship. Think of the relationships that probably wouldn’t be in existence if praying, waiting and seeking Godly counsel would have taken place. Dating, marriages or any relationship can be beautiful if taken on wisely. Good communion between two individuals is a treasure and should be treated as such.

There is a beauty in waiting on that right individual that cannot be explained. Smell every rose pedal, take longer walks alone, be the first one at church or perhaps go to a movie on your own. Waiting, strengthens you, it matures you and it shows God that you are willing to wait on His best for you. When you choose a mate out of being impatient or feeling like you will be the one to change the person you are with, you really cheat yourself and are headed down a road of regret and heartache. Decide today that waiting for the right person is your only option. There’s a blessing in the waiting and that blessing is called your soul mate. The one God designed only for you. He is waiting, she is waiting. Let them find you, waiting on them. Blessings!